When you are out partying and unwinding after a long week of mind-numbing work, inevitably you will find yourself in a situation where you see a really cute girl you would love to meet.
Unfortunately, most of us would rather have our leg sawed off than go and talk to this girl. This type of fear is natural. It is an innate reaction to what PUA’s have termed, “the cold approach.”
Beautiful women are approached all of the time. As such, they have developed an almost natural instinct to ward off the repetitive pick-up attempts streams of ever-hopeful guys employ.
Cold approaches are difficult because you have no previous interaction with this woman, and therefore, when engaging in cold approaches you are in an “uphill battle.” You made the approach right? You’re now in her territory. Should I hand you that saw?
Enter the wingman.
A good wingman serves three important functions in helping you break the ice with your new girl:
(1) He alerts you of your target and informs you what she is doing, and whether she might be available or receptive to your approach.
(2) He sacrifices his chances with your target by making himself seem “less alpha” to the girl. Remember, a moth is attracted to the brightest burning flame; if your wingman makes himself out to be a dud, you will already be set up to appear a bit “brighter.” In essence, your wingman “takes one for the team” by disqualifying himself from your target.
(3) He can be a valuable in disarming or drawing away the attention of your intended target’s friends, who will relentlessly try to cock-block you.
Also, beautiful women are often quite vain in social (meat market) settings. This vanity might not be the fault of their own –they’ve had slobbering men tell them they’re worth a million bucks for the majority of their post-pubescent life. But nonetheless, women are more receptive to men who appear to have some sort of social status.
If you hit the town with several wingmen, you are projecting a high social status. Social status, more than money, is an aphrodisiac for women. High social status usually equals money and power, and these are two things the instinctive/survival part of the female brain cannot resist.
This works well for me in university, which is in essence a “tribe” with a well defined social hierarchy.
Wingmen are an excellent tool for meeting and picking up women. If used properly, they will greatly enhance your ability to meet and attract beautiful women. Once the ice is broken, conversation usually flows naturally and you find the “cold” woman you thought you were approaching is not really cold at all, rather she is an interesting person who is fun to be around.
Now put down that saw, pick up a beer and get out there.