She’s Just Not that Into You

You have left her a casual message trying to set up a second date and she is non-responsive to your efforts. She may give you an excuse about her work, or about how she has a friend she hasn’t seen, but maybe she’s just not that into you? Just because your first date went smooth in your eyes, does not mean she feels the same. If she is a nice person she will be just that, “Nice!” Her being nice does not necessarily mean that she is attracted to you and wants to continue seeing you. A woman’s excuses are nothing more than excuses. If she is into you she will not only make time for you, she will demand your time. The key to figuring this out lays in your ability to read between the lines. A woman may have to cancel on a second date due to extenuating circumstances; you have to be able to sift through what she really means. You can use the “Rule of Three” to help decipher what she really wants. The rule of three is simply giving women three chances to hangout. Ask three times, each time being three days apart. If you ask her to hangout three times and she continually makes excuses, guess what, “She’s Just Not That Into You!”

There is nothing wrong with you; she just wasn’t feeling it as much as you were. Women who have their own lives can get caught up in what they are doing and where they are going in their own lives. They thought you were cool, but they aren’t stopping their lives for you. It’s important as men that we don’t put our lives on hold for them either. Yes they are attractive, and yes you want them, but they want a man, not an overly nice guy or a complete douchebag. You already have so many career and individual aspirations, why would you waste your time chasing someone who’s not into you? Fighting for the attention of someone who barely pays you any is not healthy! I understand emotions and logic more often then not do not match up when it comes to what you should do with women, but you have to make logical decisions. Real life is not like the PG 13 movies you used to watch with your ex where the persistent guy eventually got the woman of his dreams at the end. In real life the guy who stars in the PG 13 movie is creepy. So don’t be creepy, be normal and you will most likely find yourself a normal girl.  Nobody wants an average girlfriend or relationship, so if she is giving all the signs that say, “she’s just not that into you,” it’s time to move on and find the girl who is into you.