First dates can be nerve wracking.
Wardrobe changes, venue planning, trying not to swear in front of a complete stranger. Making a move on a first date can be described as awkward at best.
But if you can act like a normal human being for just a couple of hours, you and your date could be doing the no pants dance easier than you ever imagined.
Be a Gentleman
Bizarrely the more you treat her like a lady the more she will want to let her wild side show. Doors and cheques are a given but if you confidently take charge of the planning portion of the date then she can relax.
Compliments
This might sounds obvious but I implore you to read on. Compliment her on her accomplishments, her mind and the way she carries herself. Avoid using sexual language. Think more, “wow you have beauty and brains, I can’t believe you are single,” and less, “girl your booty looks fly.” Just typing this makes me cringe. Let’s not forget you just met.
Manners are sexy, backwards as it sounds.
Don’t Expect Anything Physical
If she feels like you are taking her out in order to get into her pants she will be turned off and regress. Act like you are there to get to know her and you are really enjoying her company.
After the initial drink or activity is winding down ask her if she knows anywhere open late so you can continue your conversation. Having alcohol at your place is crucial as you can offer to continue the date with promises of wine – even if you don’t drink it.
Be a Handy Man
Obviously you don’t want to be Hands McGee, but you also can’t wait until the end of the night to touch her. Put your hand on the small of her back when you walk through doors, let your knees touch when you are sitting next to each other. Gently start the energy circulating between the two of you.
Be Prepared
There are a few essentials that must be in your wallet/apartment. Making sure your place doesn’t look like you’re squatting. It is imperative to ensuring she stays once she gets there. If your housemates are pigs do your best to tidy up and make sure your room is immaculate. Is there anything more arousing than the scent of lemony disinfectant? I think not.
Checklist:
Cash – enough money for drinks, food (if you are eating) and taxies. Paying with credit card at a bar is acceptable if you will be there for a few drinks, but don’t try to pay for the taxi with your debit card. Cash means you can move freely between activities. Oh and no $100 bills – don’t be that guy.
Condoms – be optimistic.
Toilet paper – girls use it, you should have some.
Common alcohol – wine, decent beer and vodka are pretty safe.
Mixes – juice and something fizzy (Ginger Ale/Diet Cola). Save the expired milk for another time.
Music – something relaxed that will play nicely in the background while you converse. Now is not the time to be showing her your epic death metal collection (impressive as it may be).
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Close the Deal
If you have followed the guide, conditions should now be perfect for making a move. Now is time to give more personal compliments. Eye contact is a given. Don’t be aggressive in your approach but you must exude confidence. If you have managed to get through my list it is pretty safe to say its business time.
Written by CAVE Contributor Lacey Gray
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