The race is unending. Aspirations nursed, are awesome. The goals set – limitless, wanting to touch the skies. Chasing dreams is common. Life today is hectic – age notwithstanding. The fall out – stress.
Do it together
When both of you come home equally tired – the first thing that comes to mind is “Oh God! Miles to go before I sleep.” Well it’s not that tough. There is no point doing everything alone and sulking. Talk to your partner about it. If you cook that evening- ask her to do the cleaning or to take care of the kid’s homework. You won’t feel the “so called” stress at all once you work hand-in-hand with your loved one. That’s the best part of togetherness.
Show respect if you want it for yourself
This one is clichéd but works with the same efficacy even today. Respect your partner – sometimes with words, because mutual respect can do wonders to your relationship.
For men out there, please remember today’s women are not inferior beings. Those with a strong personality and fiercely independent spirit need to be handled with kid gloves. Be patient with your girl, she will do anything to make you happy.
Being possessive is not a crime but it is better not to think that you have to have 100 per cent control over your spouse all the time. She is not a product, who has landed on your lap. Their respective families have been playing a critical role to make her what they are today. Denying this will make things more difficult for you. Try to understand that her family is yours too. None of us is perfect, so in case of a problem – don’t bitch. If you don’t like something, try discussing it with your spouse as she would know her family better and might come up with a workable solution. Harshness about and criticism of one’s family will not only hurt your lady’s ego, it will create a distance between the two. And finally if you don’t treat her family as your own, don’t expect she will do it for yours.
Give space – keep some for yourself too.
This is really important to keep your relation going. Don’t follow her everywhere. You are certainly not an adorable pug as in advertisements. If your spouse enjoys playing reading or dancing for sometime – let her. Don’t brood over it and feel that she is not giving you company. If you enjoy video games – indulge in it. In short, keep some “Me time”. It rejuvenates your individuality.
Be friend first – lover afterwards
Your spouse should be your best friend in its true sense. No matter what you do, what you think, share it with her. It helps. At some point you might find it tough, but if you can do it, this strengthens your relationship; it creates bonding and it sweeps away all your insecurities. Being the “best friend” of your “love” makes your life brighter, lighter, sweeter and full of laughter.
Last but not the least
Spend time with each other – the longer the better
Have coffee, talk sheer nonsense, do all sorts of insignificant stuff, even fight.