1. Her parents don’t approve of you because of nationality/religion/career etc.
Families usually have the best interest in mind when it comes to their own kin. Sometimes it is necessary for a family to point a woman in the right direction and get her away from sleeze ball guys. Though other times, old school mentalities can be the death of perfectly healthy relationships. A family can easily cross the line from having their daughters best interest in mind, to simply having their interest in mind. If you are a grown man and you have to hide your relationship because your nationality or religion does not coincide with the family, it is time for you to leave. This will put enduring stress on the girl you are seeing as she will feel torn between her family and you. Most of the time she is going to side with her family because they are a permanent fixture in her life. Also, you shouldn’t have to continually prove yourself to anyone if you are on the right track in life. Just because you are not going to cure cancer doesn’t mean that you are not a good guy. Remember, you’re awesome and move on.
2. Her ex-boyfriend is still her “best friend”
This isn’t okay. She may try and argue how it’s different, and tell you that you are being crazy…but you’re not. You should allow your girlfriend to be friends with anyone she wants, except ex-boyfriends. There was attraction between them once and if they hangout it is only a recipe for disaster. Not only is it completely disrespectful to you, but you are a man and you know how we think. The ex doesn’t want to be friends with your girlfriend and if the opportunity arises for him to hook up with her, he’s going to take it. Friends can become lovers, lovers cannot become friends.
3. Jealously could be her middle name
Every girl is going to display signs of jealously, it’s learning how to read the signs and deal with them before they get out of hand. When it comes to seeing if you should leave her, you have to really analyze her levels of jealousy. If you cannot go to the washroom at a restaurant without going through what seems like a police interrogation, then… it’s time to leave. If you catch her on your Facebook, when you haven’t given her the password…it’s time to leave. If you tell her you are out with the boys and she ‘randomly’ shows up at the bar…it’s time to leave. If she is over your shoulder while you read this…hopefully she doesn’t have a knife.
4. She makes you choose between things you love and her (sports, friends, education, work)
Any healthy relationship allows you to put value in each other, but it also should allow you to follow your other passions. You are the most important person in your world, not her. Making her happy may make you happy, but you have to be in things for you. If you love a sport, or making music and she continually makes you choose between her and your other passions you are simply standing on a land mine waiting for detonation. If she loves you, she has to accept that some nights you are going to hang out with your friends, play a hockey game, etc. An unbalanced life is going to lead to stress and unhappiness. If she’s holding you back, let her go.
5. She cheated on her Ex with you.
You are not Ryan Reynolds, or Brad Pitt. So when she cheats on her current boyfriend with you, it’s not because you are special. It’s because her relationship is failing and she is reaching out for something she is not getting in her current relationship. When you enter a relationship with someone who has cheated in the past, proceed with caution. It may work out between you two, but if she cheats on you a week, 6 months or a year from now just remember the writing was on the wall.