As us men make the sometimes stumbling transition from adolescence to young adulthood, most of us begin to alter our philosophy towards dating. We go from swinging playboys and short-term thrill-seekers to more long-term and goal-oriented guys. Notwithstanding our natural proclivities as men, we begin to orient ourselves to a more responsible forward-thinking lifestyle.

That being said, weeding out the types of girls that could potentially inhibit success, both professionally and personally, is a must. Look for a select series of traits or red flags. They will let you know if you should end the relationship while you’re ahead.

1. Insecurity

If she’s insecure about herself, how will she be secure with you? Stay clear.

2. She has no Friends or Active Social Life

If she devotes all her time to her partner, job, or family, this could potentially be a bad thing. Find someone with a collective balance.

3. Lack of Education or Ambition

Depending on your own professional goals, an unaligned girl who accepts a heightened level of mediocrity probably will stifle your hopes and dreams.

4.Cling

Enough said—if she is too possessive or gets attached too soon, get rid of her. It will smother you.

5. Bad Relationship With Her Parents or Family

Getting along with our parents and family is something we all inevitably have to do. Part of finding the right girl is getting along with her family and their culture. If there is a toxic history and division within the family it could lead to much unwanted tension and unneeded stress. It also speaks to her problem-solving skills and affability.

6. Intimacy Issues

Intimacy is the natural impetus behind any solid relationship. It helps build and sustain a foundation and it’s what separates romantic relationships from normal friendships. It is important and if it’s not what you want, get out fast.

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7. She Doesn’t Get Along With Your Friends and Creates Polarization

Have you ever heard a girl talk negatively about some of your closest friends? “How can you be that close with him, I can’t stand him,” etc. This does not bode well for future success. Your friends were there first and should matter most at the early stages of a relationship. This is a big red flag if she tries to keep them from you and gets in the way.

8. History of Substance Abuse, Alcoholism, or Abusive Relationships

None of these things spell an easy road ahead. Compassion and understanding are cornerstones of a relationship, but only to an extent can one aptly handle issues that are deep-seated and complex. Be her boyfriend, not her counselor. Be alert of red flags associated with these signs.

9. History of Cheating or Trust Issues

You want a loyal woman by your side, not someone you’re constantly checking up on. Save yourself the stress of reading between her words and find someone who will stay faithful by your side.

10. Bad Sense of Style or Manners

You want a classy girl, one you can show off. Pay attention to how she addresses others, her mannerisms, and general attitude. Find someone who is best aligned with your sensibility.

Keep these red flags in the back of your mind while scouting for new wife-material.